Fr. Z had a very interesting post about Anthony Esolen’s latest post concerning the making of men from boys and that it is something a mother cannot provide her son with; it takes a father (or father figure to do that). Fr. Z’s post is here: http://wdtprs.com/blog/2018/06/esolens-observations-on-boys-and-men-and-what-women-cannot-give-them/
I am of the opinion that the failure of this present generation in creating men has spread far beyond the simple idea of boys (in a man’s body) and women who create a child without the prerequisite marriage; which became natural in every civilization. This was a part of a boys rite of passage into manhood. But note that in our present day most of the areas in a boys life where his manhood is put to the test has been eradicated; that the rite of passage from boyhood to manhood has almost disappeared from our society. It is apparent in the new Boy Scouts that allows girls, military academies and the military itself are now coed and has even pervaded our churches where boys who were altar boys in the past are now simply altar servers along side girls and the male mentoring of boys has all but disappeared.
For a boy to become a man he needs a father or a father figure; a mentor, grandfather, uncle, older married brother or a manly pastor/priest that will give boys the necessary information they need in order that they might make this cultural passage from boyhood to manhood. In robbing these young boys of the traditional rite of passage has impoverished our societies with fewer real men who have been replaced with big boys, with bodies of men, who have never, and may never, grow into men. They do not understand how to relate to other men nor do they know how to create monogamous relationships that are fueled by procreation, provision and protection. They simply enjoy the sex as a satisfaction of their lust and without learning that men need to learn the responsibility that men once were taught: procreation, provision and protection. For this is the realm of real men who find their manhood in fulfilling the role of a husband. Women, on the other hand, are different and their desire to seek a real man for a husband is hardwired into their very genes. And today these women are having a hard time meeting a real man to enter into matrimony and willing to live out a life of sacrifice to provide and protect his nuclear family. It is perhaps our greatest failure and the largest worldwide crisis we have faced since the dawn of man.
Please read the following 2 articles which are related. The Esolen article is better but the Stanton article fills in some gaps and gives another perspective on the subject as well.
http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2017/12/20272/ – Glenn Stanton
http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2018/06/21528/ – Anthony Esolen
What then are we to do about this situation? For once down this track of fatherless households it seems that we have gone down the slippery slope and things will just get worse from here. I have no answers but I do know that if we don’t start making men from boys soon, we won’t have any men to mentor the next generation of boys.
All Along the Watchtower 
I would venture to say that what we call the greatest generation developed because boys became men during WW2. Is what we need again is war?
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The greatest generation largely became the greatest generation because our society built self-reliant men who were able to work together as men (a band of brothers) under horrific and deadly circumstances. Most came from working families with fathers and mothers and they did ‘men things’ when growing up and learning from other men what it means to sacrifice for wife and children; for hearth and home and for God and country.
I fear that a full action war fought today would show us all how deficient we are in the area of man building. If were not for the technology of the day I would not think that we would do very well on the battlefield: although there are always elite forces such as the SEALS that seem to continue to build men and we have minimized the problems in the armed forces by also making it a wholly volunteer army. But if it gets down to the Vietnam type era of drafting soldiers (and will include ‘snowflakes’ and transgenders, perhaps women etc.) into the army we will be in serious trouble. A World War fought on battlefields like the last two (I think) could be disastrous.
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One aspect that makes traditional men great is their acceptance of the finality and consequences of decisions. They accepted that if you killed someone on the battlefield there was no bringing him back and that it was necessary to fight for the survival of true civilisation. There were no arguments about “having it both ways” – you made your choice and accepted responsibility from what flowed. They were the opposite of the over-cautiousness found in our legalistic times. Granted I am aiming to become a lawyer, but I genuinely believe that too much fear of contract and tort law and criminal sanctions is paralysing us.
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It is indeed.
And yes, a real man takes responsibility for his actions. This is something that our present generation of male snowflakes (boys in men’s clothing) cannot be expected to do. They have been taught and groomed to retain their effete natures all their lives and to despise men; the people that they should want to emulate.
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