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images (1)Now there’s an intriguing title for a blog post – well I have to do something to stand out now Mr S and Malcolm are here 🙂

I have next to me a postcard brought back for me on Sunday by my co-author. It is from the Catholic Church and is going to go to my MP, and it urges him to vote against the Same Sex Couples Bill, which comes to the House of Commons next week.  It has already been called an ‘anti-gay’ postcard by some, although there is nothing in it to warrant that. I am so fed up with this issue, and so fed up in particular with it being used to somehow define Christian belief, that I had more than half decided to say nothing more about it here – not least as my views are, even for me, wishy-washy. But as I am going to sign it and send it to my MP tomorrow, then I ought to have the guts to come down off the fence on which I tend to sit – if only so that, to paraphrase Mr Sales, the iron does not enter into my soul.

I am wary of this topic because I loathe the idea that anyone is defining my Faith by what it is against, and then pretending that it ‘hates’ a certain sort of person. It hates no one – we are all children of God. If it hated ‘sinners’, it would ‘hate’ us all. I’m not saying (because it would be wrong and ridiculous) that there are not Christians who do hate gay people – but they don’t do it as Christians and it is not a Christian response; those gay activists who pretend it is are, I hope, not speaking for anyone save themselves.  There is, here, a deliberate attempt to inflame tempers – and it is a rotten way to present any topic.

Marriage is something we all thought we knew the definition of: one man, one woman (for life, or, increasingly and sadly, till either of us finds someone else) – a union blessed by God, modelled on the relationship between Him and His Church; also the essential unit for bringing children up. There is a wider, societal dimension to marriage – which is why many societies have given tax breaks to those who marry. In this country no party said it would change that if elected. Now a Coalition Government is going to do just that.

It is for these reasons that the Catholic Church wishes us to send cards to our MPs – and because I agree, I will do so.

It isn’t, for me a burning issue. My country already allows gay couples the rights of those married in the form of civil partnership.  I am told gay marriage has no effect on heterosexual marriage, then I am told that we may have to abandon the idea of divorce on grounds of adultery because lawyers cannot decide what would constitute that for gay couples; no effect – not really.

I know my MP, and I know he won’t vote as I want. But he’s a good man and does a good job, so I daresay I’ll vote for him all the same. But I do wish this topic buried seven fathoms deep – it isn’t what Christianity is about.  Sinners who wish to sin will, like the poor, be with us always – it is a feature of modern society that we can erect that habit into a point of principle.